If you say you’re for me how are you against me?

If you’re anything like me you wonder how it is possible that someone you believe is in your corner is the one that has something negative to say behind your back. It’s awesomely funny that it happens on a regular basis. It can be your friends, coworkers, and even family. How is it every milestone you make there is praise while you’re there but as SOON as you leave the talking begins:

“She/he did a good job on their project, but I know somebody helped becauser there’s no way she/he is that smart.”

“She/he’s relocating to a new city. That’s good. A change of scenery is always good. I give them 6 months and they’ll be right back here. They can’t do nothing on their own.”

“They’re in church every Sunday and singing praises and ain’t living right to save their lives. Why go?”

The criticism goes on and on. I never knock anyone about their views on someone, but don’t perpretrate like everything they are doing you agree when you don’t or could care less. That’s just down right wrong. I have been told if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all. I feel that being a hinder and not helpful is the exact same. If you are truly happy with what they are doing say it, mean it, and show it every day. Don’t sit here and be for them and then turning your nose down when they are gone. If you took the time to follow your dreams and do what makes you happy I’m pretty sure you would get the same praises that they are getting. Remember always surround yourself with positivity and positive people. Life is too short for negativity and negative people.


When is enough really enough?

You have done all you can for a person in any situation: relationship, personal, advice, and they just don’t realize that you are only here to HELP and not HINDER them. Where do you draw the line? There is only so much a person can take in any situation. I get the feeling just from previous experience that many believe that you will forever be ther for them when they are going through their trials and tribulations. What really kills me is the fact that they want you in their corner but when they ask for your advice it is either too harsh, or “you don’t know what you’re talking about.” Why ask when you are just going to deter from what we are trying to do. If we are really in your corner that means whatever you go through we go through it too. Your support system never wants to see anything happen to you. So where do you draw the line? When do you reach your breaking point? When do you say “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH” and walk away? Can you actually do this? I know these are a lot of questions to ponder, but after so long you have to eventually see you’re fighting a losing battle. When that happens it is time to realize that they don’t want to be helped. Let it go, leave it in God’s hands and press on. Talk to me…

Why commit if you still want to step out?

Question people: what is the purpose of committing yourself to someone when you are only going to step out on them? I have seen this time and time again and honestly I’m one that is sick of it…many believe it is not a problem to have someone outside of their relationship. You get responses like “it’s not like I’ll get caught,” or “long as he/she don’t know we good.” Really? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Many times when that does happen you’re pissed and want to know why they did it to you? It’s not fun then. I don’t get it but I guess I never will. I see it as “having your cake and eating it too…” This saying means you think you have the best of both worlds. You have your significant other at home that you “love” and “can’t live without’ but at the same time you have your “dessert” outside home. The ones that are hurt in the situation:

The significant other (husband, wife, girl/boyfriend): they think they have the best relationship in the world and are naive to the fact that they are being cheated on. In the end when they find out, they are hurt but since they’ve put “time” in they stay…

The “dessert”: you reap all the benefits of the significant other (wine and dine, shopping, intimacy), but only in disclosed locations. Are you ever out in public in the area where you both live? What are you referred to b/c you are not “the one?” At the end of the day, they go home to their significant other and you are¬†all alone…back to square one. This eventually gets old…


This type of situation sucks. I hate it with a passion. I really wish they could see the damage they do to the people they are involed with. In the end, as I’ve always been told: what goes on in the dark will come to light…think about it.


*Give me some feedback on what you think…have you dealt with this? Do you think it’s right?*